#19: What does my nonjudgmental stance offer my child?

with Rebecca Kennedy, PhD

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In this episode we discuss…

  • rebecca’s background and work as a parenting consultant and coach

  • approaching your child’s emotional experience as a scientist collecting data - with nonjudgmental curiosity

  • the value of approaching children with a nonjudgmental stance

  • the concrete, three-step approach rebecca uses for creating a nonjudgmental stance

  • what attachment language sounds like, and its impact on kids

  • what validating language sounds like, and its impact on kids

  • what curious language sounds like, and its impact on kids

  • how experiencing early emotional validation affects adults later in life

  • what to do if this is hard for you as a parent (and recognizing that the goal is not to do this 100% of the time)

  • the relationship between a nonjudgmental stance and body positivity in kids

  • the connection between emotional regulation and some eating disorder symptoms

  • rebecca’s answer to the million dollar question

Clinical psychologist Dr. Rebecca Kennedy draws on her work as a psychotherapist and parenting coach to help us understand what a nonjudgmental stance looks and sounds like. We discuss the benefits for children when their parents take this stance, and three steps you can put in place today to begin practicing.

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Dr. Rebecca Kennedy is a clinical psychologist with a private practice in New York City. She has been trained in variety of theories and approaches, and is experienced in working with people dealing with a wide range of issues, including depression, anxiety and panic, eating disorders and body image concerns, infertility, loss, pregnancy struggles, relationship and intimacy problems, and challenges of adolescence and early adulthood. She also offers parent coaching and consultation and runs groups for new parents through Seedlings Group.

Dr. Kennedy completed her B.A. in Psychology and Human Development from Duke University and her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. She has trained at Bellevue Hospital and Mt. Sinai Hospital. Her postdoctoral fellowship at Columbia University’s Counseling and Psychological Services included specializations in adolescence, early adulthood, and eating disorders. She has completed the Relational Psychotherapy Program at the Steven Mitchell Center and Parent Management Training at the Yale Parenting Center.

Connect with Dr. Kennedy on her website.

Jordan Best