#28: Mommy, am I fat?

with Eva Musby

live on Friday, August 9th

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In this episode we discuss…

  • how leslie and zoë connected with eva

  • eva’s book anorexia and other eating disorders - how to help your child eat well and be well

  • how to respond when your child asks “am I fat?” (whether or not they suffer from an eating disorder)

  • discussing body diversity and body ideals with kids

  • cognitive dissonance around the meaning of “fat”

  • the nuances and different stakes when your child is struggling with anorexia versus with non-clinical body image concerns

  • how to build family values around size diversity and body acceptance, and why you would want to do this

  • the problem with natural responses like “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful” or “your body is the perfect size”

  • discussing body size with children in larger and smaller bodies

  • modeling not giving time or energy to body preoccupation

  • reinforcing values that are important to your child

  • soothing your child without resorting to sizeist messages

  • when your child has negative reactions to YOUr body size

  • why “fat” is not a feeling

  • validating versus invalidating responses - and how to ask “what’s freaking you out right now”

Parent coach, advocate, and author Eva Musby joins us for a discussion about best practices when talking to your child about body size, especially when they ask that dreaded question — “Am I fat?” She draws on her personal experience as a parent and professional work supporting parents of children suffering from eating disorders.

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Eva Musby helps parents to support a son or daughter suffering from anorexia and other eating disorders. She offers information, practical tools and emotional support. Her extensive collection of resources are based on her own experience as a parent, complemented by scientific evidence, advice from other parents, and expertise from treatment providers committed to evidence-based practices. She is the author of anorexia and other eating disorders - how to help your child eat well and be well. she also offers support to parents through her videos, resources, and individual coaching.

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Learn more about Family-Based Treatment for eating disorders / the Maudsley approach mentioned in the episode.

Jordan Best